DEAR ABBY

George Offerman

It seems the longer legalized child killing is allowed to stand, the more ‘numbed’ people seem to be about this issue. In this particular letter to Dear Abby, and Abby’s response to the writer, it seems to reflect that those who hold life starts at conception should leave their opinions to themselves, as well as the secondary issue that ‘certain decisions’ are off the table when considering the consequences of one’s actions. My wife, Kathy sent a response to this letter, but we have yet to see it published, and it is inserted at the end of this post.


Dear Abby: My fiancee, "Cheryl," and I are in our early 30s and recently made an extremely difficult decision. We decided to terminate her pregnancy at six weeks. Cheryl's sister "Nicki" -- my future sister-in-law -- is opposed to abortion and now no longer wants to talk to me or have anything to do with me.

I have tried reaching out to Nicki to explain the reasons for our decision, but it has fallen on deaf ears. Should I continue asking her for forgiveness, or have I done enough already? This is causing Cheryl a great deal of pain, and I don't believe that it's fair for Nicki to punish me for a personal family decision. Please let me know your thoughts. -- Cheryl's Fiance In Phoenix

Abby: So how did Nicki get inserted in the middle of something that was none of her business in the first place? Surely, she didn't have a vote. Nicki is entitled to her feelings, but she has no right to punish you for a decision that was arrived at by both you and her sister. And the person to make that crystal clear to Nicki is Cheryl, not you, so stop apologizing.

The decision to terminate a pregnancy is an extremely sensitive one and never one that is taken lightly. Every decision has consequences, and I am sure that you and your fiancee accepted that when you made yours.

Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Write Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, Calif. 90069.



My wife Kathy’s response is printed below. It touches upon many relevant issues of the day, and links these issues together, as they should be. It is so interesting that killing a child is ‘no one’s business’, but even yelling at a child, and having the right ‘busybody’ around can result in a visit from child protective services. So, it is a matter of the socialistic perspective as to when one has a ‘right’ to be involved and when one should mind their own business. It is interesting that Abby fails to acknowledge Nicki is an aunt and does have her right to her feelings about the death of her niece/nephew due to some bizarre ‘choice’.

Dear Abby,

You were way off with your advice to Cheryl's fiancé. There was a time when abusing a born child was "nobody's business" and I'm happy to say that is no longer the case. A pregnant woman is already a mother, just the child is much more dependent on her than a born child. This society has gotten so selfish that we don't support a mother to care for her child but convince her that it is a "choice" to be disposed of at will even by brutal, painful, torture that can have lasting negative effects on the mother.



Yes, this is a response that will not see the light of day, because it points out too many truths that the socialists do not want to look at or deal with. These elitists see themselves as deity, as they are the ones who determine what is right and wrong, what we can and can’t do, hot to speak, think and act, and ultimately who lives and who dies. This is only going to play out on a larger scale as time goes by, and it will only get worse, until the state of our belief and allegiance to God becomes righteous once more.